yeah, so I found this great little essay on men and christian brotherhood at relevantmagazine.com. what's funny is that not less than an hour before reading it, my girlfriend and I were having a very similar discussion (though it was mostly me doing the discussing, cause my big mouth won't shut up! - sorry Adrienne!). this bit of writing pretty much lays out perfectly what I was trying to get out of my head, so give it a read if you want!
tired, and ready for bed, I now journey into the land of pillows and blankets. yay for my favorite pastime!